How to be more positive by changing your vocabulary?

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

─ Norman Vincent Peale

You would probably know that our behavioral patterns in our subconscious mind get mostly shaped during our childhood. As a child we see or hear something in our environment (from our parents, friends, teachers, TV, Internet, etc.) and interpret it in our mind to specific kind of behavior. These interpretations might need to be repeated in our minds a couple of times to shape a behavioral pattern. In some cases, our experience might be very strong that its interpretation shapes a pattern instantly, such as having an accident, losing someone or being abused as a child.

The influence that we get from our environments and the way that society shapes our behavioral patterns is a long story itself which will be discussed later in another article. Here we are going to represent a method for breaking our negative subconscious behavioral patterns through changing our vocabularies. In order to apply this method, you just need to be aware of your words and statements throughout the day. Then, try to modify them into more empowering ones. Which words and statements do you use more often during the day? A partner could be a big help here, since he or she can help you to recognize your repetitive words and statements. How many negative words and statements have you found that you're using too often? For instance, when I was doing this for the first time I found out that I often use the phrase "I am tired" during the day (especially in the mornings!). Probably you have heard the phrase "you become what you say" or as Joel Osteen says "your words become your reality". What happens when you use some pattern of words during the day is that you give a command (signal) to your brain to come up with all of its resources from your life experiences to make your words come true (Or to make you believe in your words!). When you say "I am shy", be sure that your subconscious mind has already stored all of your life experiences related to that subject! For example, you might have been humiliated or mocked a couple of times by your friends during your childhood, you might have been told that you're not a good speaker, singer and so on. This all could be the resources which you are subconsciously referring to in order to conclude (make yourself believe) that you are a shy person. When you say "I am tired" you are sending signals to your brain to make you believe that you really are tired (even if it's not true), and your state (on the subconscious level) will be automatically changed to a tired and weak person with a low level of energy. So, figuring out these kinds of negative statements and not saying them could revitalize you by preventing you from sending wrong signals to your brain.

Furthermore, you can try to improve your good vocabularies to excellent ones. As an example, instead of always saying "I'm not bad" or "I'm okay" say "I couldn't be better" (even if it's not true) or make an excellent phrase yourself that suits your style. The thing is not to be focused on the empty half of the glass. And, a little bit of exaggeration on the full half of the glass could always help you to better see the bright sides of your life. By practicing this kind of strategy you become more aware of your words, and use your conscious mind instead of subconscious more often. Once you get used to your new patterns of vocabularies, you will feel the difference. Take care of the words you use during your days. Take care of your words, and see how they’ll take care of you.